depression

Blogging just got easier…

I feel awful that I don’t blog as much as I would like. I always say “I’m back!” and then I’m gone for months! A lot of it is due to my illness. I spend a lot of time in bed, or asleep. Sadly, that’s how I have learned to cope with my pain. I have been focusing on getting out of that cycle as much as possible. In fact, the past two weeks, I have made it a point to at least go downstairs for a few hours. Most of the days, I’ve even left the house. I am trying to get some crafts going, and a few projects done. My youngest is back in cheerleading, and that means I’m back to taking photos again. This is HUGE for me. I feel like I have a purpose again, and this helps get me moving. I’m so excited about it!

My husband surprised me with a laptop for Christmas. I hadn’t even attempted to set it up until a few weeks ago. I just wanted one that I could write with, and edit photos on. He got me a nice one, but it has the tablet function, and it really confused me. I used to be pretty good on a computer. With smart phones and iPads, I haven’t really had to login to my old laptop in over two years! I like my new laptop, but it doesn’t have the same photo editing software my old computer had. I am getting used to it though. I really want to take a photoshop class, but I don’t know if my brain fog will allow it? I just don’t function like I used to. It can be very frustrating. That’s why I think it took me so long to set this laptop up. I just would get frustrated so quick. Anyway, now that I have it, I hope that I’m able to blog more regularly. No promises.

Including a few photos I have taken so far this season. I love going to the high school football games. I love that the cheerleaders and their families love the photos I take.

 

It’s Okay To Not Be Okay.

Sometimes it’s okay to not be okay. I’ve had a rough time lately. I’ve had a lot of pain, and a cold. It’s sometimes hard to tell where one ends and the other begins. I won’t go into it, but it’s sucks. Not only do the symptoms suck, but the emotional baggage that goes along with it does too.

I feel like I’m wasting my life because I hurt so bad. I used to push myself harder, but it seemed to make it worse. I need to get out of this cycle and live again. I’ve been sad a lot lately. This has become a lonely life. I have amazing friends and family. I just don’t feel well enough to get out. I want to. I make plans. I just hurt so bad I want to die (not literally). I miss have having something to do (work, cheer). I need to find something to do.

I am trying to wean down on my pain meds. I’m doing pretty good at it.

I know this post is pretty sad and depressing. I honestly needed to just vent. I’m just tired of being sick and tired. I want to be the old me again, or better yet a new and improved me. I did buy a day planner. I used one when I worked and it really helped me to reach my goals. My phone is easy to just ignore. So I’ll see if this day planner will help me to get out of bed, write more, and maybe even eat healthier and exercise?! 🤞🏻

I must overcome this.

Well, I’ll leave you with this quote from Theodore Roosevelt:

“Courage is not having the strength to go on; Its going on when you don’t have the strength”

Hello, yet again…

I seem to have made a habit out of posting “I’m back” blogs, when I’ve obviously not been back. As many of you with chronic illness know, some days are harder than others. I’ve been experiencing a lot of bad days over the past several months. I’ve started to blog several times since my last post, but each time it doesn’t seem to make sense, or I ramble on and on (and on). I have a lot to catch everyone up on.

My health took a dangerous turn. Thankfully, my husbands job (amazing insurance and hotel/air points) allowed me to seek a second opinion with my original doctors in Texas. They saved my life once again. Since then (October), I’ve had three bronchial dilations, and two chemo infusions. I am honestly quite emotional about how it all went down, so I’ll blog about the specifics later. For now, I just wanted to get a post out there. My intention is to blog more, and finish my book. I love writing. It’s a wonderful outlet for me since my diagnosis. I feel like I’ve lost so much of my life to these diseases. I want to push myself to live life to the fullest with every essence of my being, but then the pain becomes my reality. It just sucks. Anyway, I hope to post more often, and way more uplifting blogs. 🤞🏻

Projection…

A few doctors appointments ago, it was brought to my attention that I tend to project my feelings onto others. Since then, I’ve been blown away at how of often I do this, and for how long I’ve been doing it. Just to get us all on the same page, projection is a self- defense mechanism characteristerised by a person unconsciously attributing their own issues oneto someone as a form of denial. I ve always thought I was prettybuntune with my thoughts and view of myself. I was wrong. 

I know that the projection started around the time I got sick. For one thing, I feel crappy that I don’t feel good enough to do things, but I also feel judged because I can’t do what I used to do. I am sure there are those that are judging me, but I know that these aren’t my actual friends. My friends and family know me well enough to know that I do my best, to be my best. They know who I was before I got sick, and how bad I want to be that person again. (And how aware I am, that being that person again is almost impossible, but I can do my best to get close.)

I suppose my advice to myself is to let the haters hate, who cares about them. I need to love myself and as long as I’m doing that, things will be alright. I just need to remind myself to do that daily, and I need to forgive myself. Now, that’s a who other topic!